Wednesday, September 10, 2014


I have neglected my blog for most of the summer, but I am back with some very  amazing updates.  If you've been following me for a while, you may remember that when I returned from China I wrote this post about an adoption agency (A Helping Hand, which is now Nightlight Christian adoptions) that was given a partnership with Vivian's orphanage.  I asked for donations to this partnership and many of you told me you donated (THANK YOU! THANK YOU!).  I am thrilled to be able to show you today some of the amazing ways Nightlight has used the money they have raised to make a HUGE difference in the lives of these kids.

One of the first things they were able to do was to get the adoption files of many of the children prepared.  Not only have many of the children had their files prepared, but several have found families!!  In that post I mentioned earlier, you may remember this sweet face.  This was one of Vivian's friends.  I am so excited to share that she now has  family and I can report she is home and thriving!

Here is the picture of Emma we got from our guide the day we visited the orphanage. Such sad eyes.

And here is Emma with her mom and dad in China

And now home with her family.   Look at this transformation!  Isn't she such a doll??!!

And meet Ava.  Here is Ava when she was living in the orphanage

Ava meeting her mom in China.  This picture melts my heart.

Warming up to her dad in China

And now home and happy!  Another amazing transformation!!  I love what love can do.

You may also remember this face from my past post.

Another one of Vivian's friends.  I happened to see her picture listed  a few months ago with an organization that works with children in this province trying to place them in foster homes.  She was in need of sponsors, so Rob and I signed up to sponsor her and she is now out of the orphanage and living with a foster family.  Through the updates we have received, we can see she is growing, gaining weight and doing great.  And the best news of all is her foster family is working to adopt her!

Nightlight was also able to help this sweet girl that was struggling with a heart defect that needed immediate attention. Nightlight arranged for and funded her heart surgery.  She has gone from incredibly sick to smiling!!

They were also able to help this little boy, Robert, who needed immediate medical attention due to his hydrocephalus.

Nightlight arranged for Robert to be moved to amazing group foster home where he is getting incredible care and was even able to celebrate his first birthday.

(You can read several posts on Robert here if you are interested.)

I think one of the images that has stuck with me the most from when these women visited the orphanage was this one.

This is Timothy.  The team found him in a separate room from the other children, isolated and extremely malnourished.  He stole everyone's heart when he responded so positively to getting some much needed love and attention

Thanks to Nightlight, Timothy has also been moved to a better environment and looks to be thriving there.

Nightlight pleaded with the orphanage to file Timothy's adoption papers and guess what happened when they did:  he has a family that has stepped forward for him!!!  

The last piece of good news I have to report is that a physical therapist, April, from Nightlight is going to be working part-time in the orphanage for the next 4 months.  Each month she will spend 10 days at the orphanage, loving on the children and doing her best to train nannies and lend a hand in the care-taking of the children. You can read more about April's trip here and, if interested, follow her blog while she is in China here.  I know I will be following closely.

I am so excited and touched by all of the amazing things that have happened for these kids since Nightlight got involved.  We feel such a connection to these sweet children.  I want to thank all of my friends and blog readers who donated to this partnership.  You have helped to make an INCREDIBLE difference in these orphan's lives.

Finally, I can't close without asking again for donations to Nightlight to continue their work in Vivian's orphanage. I do know that since Vivian has left there have been a number of new arrivals.  

The need for help will only continue.  I have been back and forth this summer about whether or not to continue this blog (still working that out), but while I do still have it I feel a sense of responsibility to do what I can for these kids.  If you would consider taking a minute or two to donate ANY amount, I would be so very appreciative.  I hope what you have read today will show you that your donation will CHANGE AN ORPHAN'S LIFE.  (this money is also being used to fund April's work in the orphanage).

To donate, click here.  

My very favorite book about Chinese adoption is a book by Jeff Gammage titled, "China Ghosts: My Daughter's Journey to America, My Passage to Fatherhood".  If you are an adoptive parent and you have not read it, go buy it now.  It is so incredibly touching.  At one point he talks about things that the adoption agencies don't tell you as parents.  He goes on to say what he would write if he were to write a brochure for would-be parents.  I want to include it here because this is why I am writing this post:
"Don't think you're going to walk into an over-crowded orphanage, take one child out, and be the same person when you sit down to breakfast the next morning.  You won't be. It's too cruel a lottery.  And your participation in it will mark you.  It would say:  from now on, wherever you may go and whatever you may do, the faces of the children left behind will come to you.  It would say:  when you travel to China, you think you're bringing home one little girl.  Only later do you realize that a host of spectators have moved in.  You think you are tying your fate to the life of a single child.  You find out that you have been inextricably bound to the lives of dozens of others.  And that there is little you can offer those children besides prayers." 
I am hoping that by posting this here I can offer the children still living in Vivian's orphanage maybe a bit more than prayers.


  1. Thank you for your post. I hope you keep blogging! Your blog was one of the first I found as we started to consider China adoption, and it has been incredibly helpful. I have since gotten pregnant (with very low odds, so a bit of a surprise!), meaning that process is on hold for now. But even starting to consider the process has changed us. I'm not sure how we're going to proceed, whether through sponsoring children or considering adoption down the road, but what we learned has changed us.

  2. Amazing what Love Can do. Such a blessing so many of Viviene's friends have found there forever families.

  3. Beautiful post, Thank the Lord these children are being helped. I want nothing more than to adopt from China, and this and one other blog brought me to that place. I had no idea prior how adoption would work, this and other blogs helped take away the fear. Your blog is inspirational, think of how many kids are being helped a sa result of your honest sharing. God Bless, keep up the good work. I will donate.

  4. You have no idea how much of a blessing your blog has been to me! My husband and I just got our referral 3 days ago and are beyond ourselves with happiness and excitement! I've read your whole blog in only a few days :-). It got me through parts of this adoption process! We are now hoping that we get to go to China and bring our little boy home soon! Your daughter is beautiful! I've enjoyed seeing her progress! It's so encouraging! You have a beautiful family, God bless all of you! And thanks for this blog!!!! I've been touched and moved to do more!!!

  5. Hard to read and see the pictures through the tears.
    these are REAL LIVES you are touching, people who will get to be just that through these efforts.
    Beyond beautiful.
    Thank you!!!!!!!!!

  6. I have also been inspired by reading your blog through our adoption process. We're waiting on a match right now. It really helps to read the real life 'adventures' of other adoptive families! Keep it up! :)

  7. It's so great to see the wonderful changes that have taken place in these kids' lives. How amazing! I loved seeing so many familiar faces and knowing that they're being taken care of.

  8. Adoption can be a challenging process. But seeing all those kids being given a chance to be with a family is definitely rewarding in itself. Vivian will surely be happy to know that her friends will have a family too, just like her. And speaking of which, how is she?

    Sandra Walker @ Eric Risk

  9. I LOVE your blog- you don't know me or my family but I stumbled across your blog when looking into China adoption-Combined with a family I know and then after reading your story, journey and honesty - it helped give us the confidence to take the step forward and we are now in CCAI starting our own journey to find a daughter of our own. Its been inspirational and such a source of perspective and information- Love Love your writing- such a blessing-:) God Bless you all and the orphans in China :)