Sunday, December 16, 2012

The post I did not want to write

On Tuesday afternoon  we received the long awaited call from our agency that they had a file of a little girl for us to review.  I can't go into much detail, but we had to turn down the referral. She just wasn't our girl.

I was heartbroken, guilt-stricken and disappointed.  But, I feel peace with our decision and know that is was the right decision for our family.

We know our girl is out there somewhere, and we will continue to wait for her.


  1. Oh I am so sorry! :( We've been there too. When we saw our Brielle though, it was instant! She was the one! I hope you see your child's face soon!

  2. I'm so sorry :( I can only imagine how difficult that must have been. But you have to do what you believe is best for your whole family and I think you will know immediately when you see your daughter! Hope you get another call soon!!

  3. I'm so sorry. We have three bio kids and adopted domestically a few years ago. Our first try failed (they changed their minds), and to this day I am so happy that they did or we would never have ended up with the little spit-fire that is our fourth child. I just found your blog and was reading through your fears- believe me, I had those too! The unknown is always a bit scary! BTW- are you in NC?

  4. I am sure that was so difficult. If you follow God's will for you -you cannot go wrong. Your daughter will be exactly who God intended her to be. I know He will bless y'all greatly. Merry Christmas!


  5. We've considered a few waiting children, but so far my hubby and I haven't been able to agree on one. It's so hard to say "no". I would have taken the first little girl and her many potential issues, but my husband, ever the voice of reason, thoughtfully explained why he didn't think she was ours. I still think of her and pray for her everyday. I pray that she will find the family she is meant for.

    I know that most people immediately knew when the referral was their child. Hopefully it does go that way??

    Praying that the next referral is your little girl!!! :)

  6. I have so been there. I know that doesn't help your sadness but you are not alone. This IA community is such a wonderful thing. Praying that you'll find your little one soon... very very soon.
    nancy-of the crazy 9